Validations? Why?

It's been sometime peeps! Hope you missed me! (or not!)

That's cool! I'm just trying to be okay with myself and not expect praises / validation in everything I do.

Its been liberating.

Today, I went to office in a saree and no one batted an eye. They did for the first few days I went in a saree. They asked me what the occasion was. I just said.. "Oh! I love saree and I had some time in morning to do this! Something to brighten my day!". My manager called me to a room and asked me not to say the last few words (apparently it demotivates others and lets them know that everyone around is depressed). So now I have to filter my response. Now I just look at them and reply - "Its someone's birthday!".  No wonder people are looking at me like I'm a physchopath (but it's fine! I'm not looking for validation!)

I considered going for therapy too. Why do I want praises? Why the validation that what I'm doing matters? (coz it doesn't! Imagine all the rulers and scientists! They did something and left. We only remember a handful! (sometimes.. not even those)

I gathered a few names and numbers of therapists around me. I started making a mental note of all the things I need to ask them in the given 50mins. Why not? I've heard therapy is expensive. So, I'll keep a checklist handy. Not going to let the therapist sit there and judge me. I'll make them work for their money!

I've completed the list and glancing through. My problem is.. my questions ranges from 'why am I like this' to 'why can't I get off my addiction of shopping' to 'why are my headsets uncomfortable'. I'm sure the therapist is going to find a common link across all of them. (maybe something to do with my childhood)

I'm glancing further down the list and my phone beeps. It's my sister trying a video call. I pick the call and stare at her. She brightens with smile and says.. "Aww you are looking so hot! Who can say you are a mom??". And all is well with the world. My existence is meaningful again and my headsets are exactly how they are meant to.

I wrap up the notes and start with my gossip session with sister.

Bottom line - Don't complicate your life more than you need to! Just get a sister who loves you blindly. (it will fix most of your problems if not all)